Hi! Welcome to another Saturday night Girls Night In! It’s been a crazy week, but I finally got the new website up for Wicked Book Events. I love it! I can’t believe the line-up of authors coming in June! I was able to do a little reading this week finally, and I read Olivia Cunning’s newest Sole Regret book, Touch Me. And let me just say….wow, that lady can write the crap out of a sex scene! (See my review)
I also re-read On Dublin Street by Samantha Young (actually I have 10% left). Let me tell you Braden Carmichael….. Holy fuck. If you haven’t read that book, click HERE right the fuck now. I PROMISE, you will love me for it. Braden is my Book Boyfriend for the week. Down London Road, the next book, comes out Tuesday, but I have an ARC waiting, so you guys better entertain me tonight!
Now, onto the big O.
In the books we read, virgins come from nipple sucking. PULEEZE. Really, can that happen? Maybe to one in a million women, but I think not. 90% of the books we read have the women have multiple orgasms, many on command, without ANY external stimulation. The couples often come together as well.
I recently spoke to a friend who thought all women were like that in real life and felt bad about herself. According to this article, 75% of women have never had an “internal” orgasm.
At Wicked Book Weekend we had a talk about it. There was one young lady who will forever have “squirting” in her name, who ALWAYS had internal ones. She is the rarity.
What about multiples? That second one takes work!!!
What about those times where you just can’t get there, even with the high powered tool? (Hello, magic wand!) Has that EVER happened in a book?
I must say, in this case, I’m really lucky. My husband does whatever it takes, and won’t give up, even if I do. He will not let me NOT have a happy ending.
What about the men? When I was watching Last Call with Brittany the other night, Brittany was doubtful about men who can have more than one O, or go for hours. My guy is in his early 50s (shut up, he’s a lot older than me!) and can go twice in a row. That second time is sometimes a lot of work, but he does it! He can go until I beg him to stop because I can’t move any more, and then do it again that night. (Case in point….the kids were out today, we had a double session, he then texted me at 6:30 and warned me he “wasn’t done with me”.) The night we first did it (25 years ago), it was a 6 time night!
I always wear out first. But I’m an external girl. Something happens internally, but I still think I’m a little scared to let it go for a big one. But damn, my guy can make me scream. 🙂 But he isn’t into quickies, which kind of sucks. Once in a while, I like it fast. I don’t need to come every time, but he can’t seem to do it quick, unless I do first, so I guess I won’t complain….
What about you guys? Are the books realistic? Are you lucky enough to have a g-spot O? Can your guy go more than once? Is there something that works every time? Inquiring, dirty minds want to know!
PS. I’m filthy drunk and my 15 year old and his friend are sitting 10 feet away from me jamming out some Grateful Dead (They are both AMAZING guitarists) so forgive me mistakes, I’m having some focusing issues…
R.L. Griffin says
Favorite ridiculousness is when virgin comes the first time or when a female comes on command. No not going to happen.
Ana's Attic says
I wish I could come on command!
R.L. Griffin says
Me too I’d command myself all the time. Hahaha
Kelly Scottisheart says
Just downloaded “On Dublin Street”, because you said I should 😉
Suzy says
Oh you should! Braden Carmichael….he’s up there on the list!
Ana's Attic says
Oh, I promise, you won’t regret it!
Nancy Van Spunky says
OMG! I LOVE this!!! Yes!
Suzy says
I’m here! Lol.
And I’m actually trying to teach myself how NOT to squirt!! It’s a wonderfully amazing feeling, but who wants to change sheets at midnight every time!!
Ana's Attic says
just fuck on puppy pads! Or the waterproof pads they use in the hospital…
Suzy says
LMAO! We actually have a plastic lines sheet! And towels. How romantic is a poopy pad?!? Lol
Nancy Van Spunky says
Oh, wow, Suzy! I’m impressed, but I get you on the mess thing… 😉
Suzy says
As for assistance by high powered tools…I just had a Passion Party and got three new “tools”. The other night I decided to try them out, bc I too usually can achieve multiples. The first one was…oh my! The second one took a little longer and wasn’t nearly as intense. But the third one…I think I was just done. I put it in and turned it on and nothing. I picked up my Kindle and started reading. Two chapters later, I decided either two was enough or that one was a total waste of money!! I’ll give it another go another night! Lol
Ana's Attic says
I think we will have a passion party table at GNO in June. You can show us what the good ones are!
YY says
Sounds like fun. I need to get tickets. Trying to convince a friend to go with me.
Ana's Attic says
We all make friends!
Suzy says
I was gonna say the same thing! It’ll be fun!! The WBW was so fun!!
YY says
OK. Purchasing a ticket then even though I may not know anyone. 🙂
Suzy says
You will have fun! Smut brings us all together!! 🙂
Nancy Van Spunky says
I’ll be there… 😀
Suzy says
I should take out stock in the company! I have tried so many different things. So funny, when I was going through my new stuff, I opened the drawer where I keep all that and decided it was time to put it in a bag less accessible to my kids. The amount of stuff I pulled out of the drawer amazed me! I had stuff I forgot about in there. 🙂
Mary Jones says
As much as I love my books, sometimes I laugh at all the women who come on command over and over again. My husband of 22 years, likes to try that once in a while but more often than not I can’t. External girl an all.
Suzy says
I have never come on command. Never! Unless I was already there when he says it. That annoys me in books…sometimes. Some of the alphas, I guess I am more okay with it than others. I’m glad I don’t, otherwise our bed would be soaked in the first five minutes!!! Lol. Sometimes I think that’s his sheared ion though.
Suzy says
That’s supposed to say “sheer goal”
Stephanie says
Ok…you’ve hit the nail on the head for me Ana. I’ve never had an O of any kind. It’s starting to puss me off. I’ve been married for 12.5 yrs. sometimes I’m just like why bother … I ain’t getting mine!!! *sigh* it’s depressing. :-/
Stephanie says
Ps. U delete this stuff right? Lol
Suzy says
Never? Even with the assistance if toys? The ones for couples are great. Keep you stimulated while you’re having sex.
Stephanie says
Not even with toys. :-(. I enjoy sex but after so many yes of no release its nothing to look fwd to. :-(. Maybe I need different toys. Hmm
Suzy says
I have heard that the We Vibe is worth every penny, but I’ve not tried that one. It’s a couples toy that benefits both of you. My favorite is my good old bullet. But my favorite couples toy is our cock ring with a clitoral vibrator built in. Keeps you stimulated while he’s still going. I has a friend with the same problem and that was the one that did it for her.
Ana's Attic says
The Magic Wand!!!! Click it!
Stephanie says
I do t have one of those. I better get to searching for 1!
Ana's Attic says
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0089175GE/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=390957&creativeASIN=B0089175GE&linkCode=as2&tag=prhocr-20
Suzy says
I’ll have to look at this Magic Wand, Ana. Is that what you got at WBW?
Ana's Attic says
No the one I got there was pretty awesome though. I told her I wanted one like the magic wand. Deep, thumpy vibes, not buzzy.
Suzy says
I just clicked to see. It looks odd!! But you swear by it, huh?
Ana's Attic says
It’s BIG like a back massager. Plug in. I mean i can’t even use it on high. This thing works over clothes. For when you just can’t get there, the magic wand can…. ha
Nancy Van Spunky says
“For when you just can’t get there…” Ana, I swear, you CRACK me up!!!
Ana's Attic says
🙂
Kelly Scottisheart says
Just finished reading “Motorcycle Man” by Kristen Ashley…for the second time in a week. LOVE me some Tack 😀
Nancy Van Spunky says
I love Tack, too, Kelly!! Kristen Ashley really writes a great, hot men!!
Angela says
I think a lot of times books aren’t realistic when it comes to sex, but isn’t that the point of a book? To be make-believe? If I can’t get the multiple orgasms or orgasm on command, then I would hope someone could! (That lucky bitch!! LOL) As long as it doesn’t get too unrealistic, I’m game for it in the books I read. I know I confessed this a little while back during our dirty confessions night, but my husband has been the only one to make me orgasm and sadly enough, it wasn’t even during intercourse. 🙁 However, I do still love sex despite the fact of never having an intercourse orgasm because it still feels good. (My husband’s theory on why it’s so hard for me to orgasm? “Your boobs are too big so the blood isn’t circulating right down there.” LOL) I had this conversation not too long ago with my best friend who happens to be a guy and he told me that his wife has orgasm problems from time to time, but tells me he makes her orgasm every single time during anal. This I guess would make sense because there is a lot of nerve endings in the anus. However, I’m a bit terrified because I have never had the back door business done to me and keep thinking how big my husband’s cock is and the size of my anus LOL. Can anyone who does have anal sex back this up with the whole back door business and orgasms?
Suzy says
Exactly!! I like to read for fantasy and dream material! Lol. Probably why I end up reading more right before I fall asleep!!
Dana says
My name is Dana and i love when my man has two fingers in me and is tickling my love knot as he calls it.
Ana's Attic says
I’m really new to the whole anal thing, but I can tell you this, even just a plug helps. It’s like doublemint gum: double your pleasure!
Mary Jones says
I agree with Ana. Even a little goes a long way.
Suzy says
I have previously, but the size of my hubby is scary. I almost got a plug, but he isn’t that adventuresome. I got a triple tickle dolphin at my party, which stimulates but doesn’t penetrate.
Suzy says
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Ana's Attic says
And yes, I do agree that the books we read are fantasies, but I know from some friends that it makes them feel inadequate. That’s why we’re here! Apparently a lot of women have trouble here.
Mary Jones says
What helped me was finally having enough confidence to talk to my husband. And tell him what helps me. It wasn’t an overnight thing.. but over time talking outside of the bedroom about our physical relationship really made a difference
Ana's Attic says
It’s not easy having that conversation. We want the guys to just know, like they do in the books. I’m really lucky with my guy….really lucky. But still, I have wanted to try new things and have found it very hard to talk about. I take screen shots of book pages and text them to him sometimes.
But I’ve never had a problem saying…”a little to the left!” Or just moving his hand when he loses the target! lol
Suzy says
I’m out ladies! It’s been a long day! I wish you all sweet dreams and insane orgasms! G’night!
Ana's Attic says
night squirty!
C.C. says
I used to have problems achieving orgasm. Now that my hubs and I have been together for over a decade, I must say it happens every time at least once, sometimes two or three times. Sometimes he manages all by himself and sometimes I have to lend a “helping hand”. I’ve even managed a few internal orgasms! Surprise, surprise, I always thought they were a myth.
I think a lot of the problem lies in the fact that women are by nature cerebral when it comes to sex. If our man doesn’t get our minds engaged (or at least switched off!) it’s damn near impossible for us to orgasm! And also, the clitoris isn’t quite as easy to find as a penis so sometimes our men get a little confused. 😉
Ana's Attic says
You are right, my brain is by far my biggest hurdle!
Sharing is Caring says
Never had an internal orgasm, but WHEN we do actually have sex I do get pleasure and have at least one orgasm. My problem is the lack of sex 🙁 and its kind of my fault…I used to always be the one to start it and then I got tired of it because I don’t feel like I’m set enough for him to want me, so of course since I don’t begin the foreplay it never seems to happen. It’s always available and I sleep in the nude so nothing in the way. We don’t even touch at night, so needless to say I get a complex, I even put lotion on and make sure my breath is fresh before going to bed(just in case) it might be the night. We will be married for 15 years this month and have been together for 24….I need to do something if I’m going to last another 15. I do however give myself orgasms with or without toys, and even though most of the info in books is over exaggerated it still turns me on big time!
Ana's Attic says
I bet he’s thinking you don’t want him too. It’s a stand-off.
Sharing is Caring says
I have thought about that too. But when I do begin, I feel like it takes him longer to engage in the fun:-( he gets excited but his motions seem to take longer
Ana's Attic says
He’s getting older too…