Hi! Since we aren’t actually out, I’m changing this to Girls Night In, or should I do Girls Night Online so it’s still GNO? So many things to think about!
So, it’s been a week from hell, especially the last 24 hours. I am trying to set up a new website for Wicked Book Events, but have no clue what I’m doing and want to punch myself and my husband even more in the fucking head.
I’m on Weight Watchers now (see Starting on Monday) so I can’t drink much, but I saved my points today! I need a fucking drink. I was up till 4am trying to do this website, and I keep making it worse. Ugh.
So, my book boyfriend for the week is Remy from Real. I haven’t read much else this week anyway.
Tonights GNI is about turn-ons. What is your biggest turn-on? In real life? In a book? Funny, but my turn-ons are totally different in real life and books.
- I love tattoos. But I don’t want my husband to get one.
- I love a bossy, controlling guy. But not in real life (well, OK, a little)
- I love a biker. But my guy isn’t allowed on a street bike (he does have a dirt bike though
- I love when a guy growls (real life or not)
- Panty ripping and wall sex? Yes please (unless they are my favorite panties)
- Kiss my neck and touch my ass and you’ve totally won me over (My husband did that within 5 minutes of meeting me, and he has me).
- Cleaning me up with a wet rag after? Yes!!!!
Turn-offs? WAY too many to name. But not being clean would be number one.
My Weight Watchers friendly Sangria
What about you girls? Lets chat…turn ons, turn offs, real life, fake life….whatever. It’s a drunken party and we can say what we want!
TG says
I totally feel you on your turn ons especially
– Tattoos (real life and fictional) – trying to talk hubby into getting more, he only has one and it’s stupid
– The take control kind of guy (not in real life though because I am too much of a control freak)
– Growling….oh yes
– Panty ripping wall sex (only in my dreams and books-it would have to be in the moment of passion which rarely happens when we have no real time alone)
– Musically inclined (singing or playing the guitar- oh yes, my husband is neither, lol)
– nipple piercing (been trying to talk my hubby into getting one, but he says heck no)
Turn offs
– Definitely poor hygiene….gross
– Chest hair….not my thing
– Smoking….can’t stand the taste or the smell….YUCK
Just getting started, I am sure I will come up with more!!!!
Ana's Attic says
Oh yes, musical. But having a son who is lead guitar/singer makes me feel a little pervy.
Ana's Attic says
Chest hair–what happens though, do guys have stubble?
TG says
I don’t know, I guess it is just the thick hairy chests that turn me off. A little bit is one thing, but I don’t want a bear….and a hairy back, uggghh that is just blech!!!!
I guess most models wax their chests!
Ana's Attic says
I just threw up in my mouth at the hairy back.
Ana's Attic says
I have a new one! Coming on your face! That’s just gross.
TG says
Definitely Nasty!!!
Scheva says
That’s gross! I was thinking about that part in Real where he kept putting his semen back up in her with his fingers …. What was that about?! Ewe in the book and real life.
Ana's Attic says
That was so fucking weird, right?
Scheva says
And they loved being sticky ?! No thanks, that’s just a nasty mess in the morning!
christine says
Trun ons growling in both real and book also controlling in books not real lifesomeone to trro u down and do aat ever I want and they take charge in real and book
Ana's Attic says
I love when my husband throws me down.
R.L. Griffin says
I love semi controlling in bed but I would shove my fist through a lot of dudes in books. I don’t take direction well.
Ana's Attic says
I’m OK if they are worthy of it.
Scheva says
First- I feel like a weirdo because I’m on my 5 year olds iPod to talk on GNI tonight because my iPhone is on the blink and my hubby has the iPad. His angry birds may get an eye full tonight! Lol
Turn ons in real life are a lot different than what I like in books too.
A strong controlling alpha male in a book is HOT. But if my husband acted like that I’d kick him in the balls.
I love it when people sleep together like a pretzel in a book but I need A LOT of space when it comes to real life.
But a great ass, tall, great smile and half hooded eyes work for me wherever!
Ana's Attic says
Great answers, I agree, I love the spooning thing in books, at home, we only touch feet.
TG says
Totally agree with the space thing, we can cuddle for a few and then I am like ok that’s enough and scoot over to our respective sides of the bed!!! Don’t understand how people sleep like pretzels!!!
Brooke says
I agree. Cuddle is nice for a few minutes, but my husband is like a furnace and I just get to hot. No overnight pretzel cuddles here either.
Afraid someone I know will see this. says
Thank goodness I have read that others don’t like to spoon while sleeping. I am like don’t touch me if I am asleep . It does sound rather romantic in the books, but even having my head on his shoulder gets to be a bit uncomfortable after several minutes. I totally get why some people sleep in separate beds. I don’t but I do have a sleep number bed. His side is 100 and mine is 35. Maybe that should be on the dating check list hard or soft mattress!!!!
Dudsterr says
LOVED Remy!!! Looking forward to “Mine”. One of my biggest turn on’s is kissing, I’d love for someone to kiss my lips raw. Love a guy that is conifident, but not cocky, respectful and bossy but in a good way.
I LOVE tattoos, but not the jail house kind, not in to pretty boys, like mine a little rough around the edges, jeans, tees and boots, thats sexy to me, and if tey are wearing a touque, all the better
Turn off for me are guys that are loud, obnoxious and into themselves.. And wearing white sunglasses, what is up with that.
Still eye flirting with the guy from the coffe shop with the awesomes arms and sexy silver earing.
Ana's Attic says
sneak a pic! I like my guys rough too. No pretty boys, no sparkly fucking shirts.
christine says
Trun ons growling in both real and book also controlling in books not real lifesomeone to trro u down and do aat ever I want and they take charge in real and book I dnt want no pansy ass either I want the bad boy
Angela says
I too can’t stand a pansy ass kind of guy. It’s okay to be friends with one, but not fuck one! LOL Also, my husband isn’t a preppy boy. No Abercrombie and Fitch in this home!
Ana's Attic says
no preppy!
Ana's Attic says
If a guy wears a sparkly or shiny shirt, or capri pants, or mandals. Eeew.
TG says
WTF…Definitely turn-offs…sounds like they are batting for the other team!!!
Ana's Attic says
Those fucking affliction shirts and Ed Hardy are sparkly. Even Tivas don’t do it for me. Flip flops on the beach are OK.
Afraid someone I know will see this. says
And please men do not wear flip flops or any open toe shoe if you have ugly feet! This includes nasty heels!!
Ana's Attic says
Same with women on that note.
Angela says
Guys wearing skinny jeans or when their pants are falling down and their asses are hanging out. (ugh)
Ana's Attic says
I like a slimmer cut jean, but eeew to skinny tight.
Scheva says
Ewe I hate mandals too. Especially if the guy has white nasty feet.
Ana's Attic says
With sock marks!
Scheva says
Ewe!
Angela says
Oooh, turns on and turn offs.
-I also like tattoos and wouldn’t mind so much if my husband got one. I just don’t want him to go overboard. (He has been talking about wanting to get his wedding ring tattooed. I will admit that’s kind of hot.)
-I do love when he takes control in the bedroom. He is a very laid back person in real life so it’s even more super hot when he does it.
-Oh, I love it when he talks dirty too.
-A sense of humor is awesome. I love it that we laugh at the same messed up kind of stuff.
-Spontaneity: It can be anything from a spontaneous trip/outing to spontaneous sex.
-My husband’s voice (He has a deep voice that many people have commented about…everything from he sounds like Robocop to he would be a great phone sex operator.) So when he talks dirty- Oh la la!
Turn-offs:
-Poor hygiene
-Coming on my face
-Oral sex on him: I really am not too keyed up about them when I have to take one for the team. Hubby is cool about me not doing him, but I feel bad because he always enthusiastically does it to me. (Tastes like hamburger and cracker jacks imho…LOL)
-Back hair (ewww)
TG says
Definitely a sense of humor…love a guy who can make me laugh!!!
Ana's Attic says
Love a funny guy too. I am not a fan of the BJ either. For me it’s bc my guy is too big, and I have TMJ.
Angela says
Yeah, he’s too big too! Feel like I’m going to die when I do the business on him (what an embarrassing way to die!)
TG says
I only tend to go down when I am drunk…
Angela says
I notice that’s when I’m the best at it….or atleast in my drunk mind I am! LOL
K.M. Golland says
LOL, I think most of us think we rock when we are drunk.
TG says
I think we “know” we rock when we’re drunk!!!!!
Scheva says
A guy who can make you laugh is the best! I’m always the funny one in the group and I love someone who can keep up with my humor.
A BJ is a sacrifice in my book. Those are reserved as bargaining chips at my house!
K.M. Golland says
Bahahaha…Hamburger and cracker jacks.
Coming on face—Yeah keep that stringy, stinky crap away from my face…I agree 🙂
R.L. Griffin says
I’ve always been turned on by a guy who can throw me over his shoulder. Husband can do!
Ana's Attic says
I would break a person!
Angela says
Oh, another turn-off:
When my husband’s mistaken as my son- when he shaves his facial hair all off, he looks like he’s 15. This will be great for him when he gets middle aged, but not now! Besides, I like facial hair anyway.
Ana's Attic says
hahaha!
K.M. Golland says
It’s just before midday in Aus on a Sunday so instead of a cocktail I have a cup of tea 🙁
My biggest turn in real life is when my husband comes up behind me while I’m cooking and puts his hands all over me. Makes cooking a lot more fun 🙂
Other Turn ons:
Tattoos – for sure.
Guitarists – love watching there fingers move quick!!
Long passionate, oxygen depleting kisses.
Shower Sex! There’s nothing better than wet, naked, soapy bodies
Turn offs:
Morning breath—it just kills it!
The smell of cum—I’d rather smell a fart! Lol, sorry I’m honest 🙂
Gagging on pubic hairs
…I might stop now, I could go on and on.
Ana's Attic says
Ugh..all of your turn-offs.
Angela says
What Ana said…those are definitely turn offs to add to mine!
Scheva says
The pubic hair is the worst! Yuck!
Brooke says
Turn Ons: A man in a military uniform is a definite turn on for me… especially the fatigue bottoms without the top but with the dog tags. WOW.
Tattoos are a big turn on for me too and I am good with some piercings. I think it is that whole ” bad boy on the outside but gentle hidden side only I could see” thing I like.
Alpha male is great in books, but in real life I tend to give back what I get so too alpha is going to irritate me.
Turn offs: Bad breath and I agree on the too much body hair one as well.
Ana's Attic says
Oh wow. That sounded hot! Love the military guy without his shirt!
Scheva says
Yummy!
K.M. Golland says
Yes! Yes! Yes! A man in uniform 🙂 Especially military.
Sharing is Caring says
Can’t say to much my daughter is right next to me…but:
Tattoos real and fictional, as long as there isn’t too many, growl absolutely, ass touching and titty grabbing yes and yes! Dirty talk definitely to a point.
Turn off insinuating you think your being sexy, wanting to start something after being sweaty all day real or fiction yuck! Being too drunk to know what’s going on
Ana's Attic says
Ha! I like the “thinking” you are sexy thing. I hate when my husband flexes for me.
Ana's Attic says
Even though he is pretty sexy.
Sharing is Caring says
Lol…it’s just funny how when they think they are their sexiest they are so not!
TG says
oooohhhhh Muscles…not too big, but buff enough to look hot and a tight six pack!!!!! YUMMY!!!!
Ana's Attic says
The ARROW-V Muscle!!!!!
TG says
Oh Yeah!!!!
K.M. Golland says
Mmm, Yes, but not too arrow-v ee. The really prominent ones don’t do it for me.
Scheva says
Omg, a dad of a boy that my son goes to school with that I chat with every morning in the parking lot followed me on Instagram the other day and so I decided to follow him back. OMG He has like a ton of the mirror self pics with his weight lifting gloves and shorts riding down below his V cut and a HOT body. I thought it was funny that he even put those on there but now I can’t even look him in the eye because I know he knows I’ve seen them! The pics are cheesy but man did he have the body to back it up!
Ana's Attic says
Still, a guy that takes selfies is a total turn off to me.
Scheva says
Me too, you know they have to think they are the shit to put it out there like that. I could do without that kind of cockiness.
Juewelz says
I love when my man is confident , cocky , smart ass and dominate! I want him to be in control but not control my every move. I still want aligw outside of him . Lol I can not deal w pushovers and weak men I will run all over them and be extremely bored when reading and in real life. Weak for me is not saying anything when I’m being a B word . Put me in my place please it actually turns me on (I’m crazy ). Major turn off dry ! Ashy ! Skin and dirty finger nails ! I’m big on hygiene !
Ana's Attic says
Long nails too! Yuck.
Scheva says
Agh! I work in a bank and see nasty nails all the time. It’s so gross. Especially the long pinky nail. Cut that shit off!!
Ana's Attic says
Are those coke-heads? I always wonder that.
Scheva says
I’m pretty sure that’s why they have them. Especially if the other nails aren’t long. Either way – yuck!
TG says
Turn off….too big of a bush, gotta be well manscaped!!!!!
Ana's Attic says
yes!
Beth says
If a guy has a high, squeaky voice, not only is it a turn off making me think of Mickey
Mouse, it actually makes me want to do physical harm to him. I’m not proud that high male voices inspire me to violence and at the same time I can’t help but wish they’d just shut the fuck up and spare me from their MickeyMouse voice.
Ana's Attic says
Haha!
Scheva says
Lol
Sharing is Caring says
Omg, I know someone exactly like that!!! I always wonder what his wife sees in him even before they got married….he sounds like helium voice without helium!
Beth says
The opposite of sexy!
Scheva says
Turn ons-
I think I would love to zap into a Shadowlands book for a week or two. I really got into that series because I know I would love to go there and be claimed like that. To totally submit to a fucking hot alpha male that thought you wonderful, hot and sexy. But in real life I don’t think I could even get past the front door!
Ana's Attic says
I totally agree! But to be Jessica, and not really have a choice….yes please.
Scheva says
Yes, please!
Tessa says
I am so late to the party!! Eeek!
Turn ons:
Roughness. I LOVEEEEEEEEEEEEE it. it makes me wetter than the hoover dam.
Hairpulling. No clue why, but it goes right to my core.
A firm ass. I love grabbing onto those gluteus muscles!
A penis. A hard one. Yep, usually does the job 😉
Turnoffs:
Any form of Daddy.
Toe/Foot attention.
Scheva says
Daddy- ewwwweeeee!!!
Ana's Attic says
That ruined Knight for me. OK, not ruined it….but eew.
Tessa says
Knight, I hate to say, was my least fave KA book. Probably because of Daddy. I did love the hell out of Creed, though.
Scheva says
Creed is still my number one man. I freaking love that story. <3
Tessa says
It creeps me out!!!
Ana's Attic says
My feet are so ticklish I can’t handle much, but my husband gives me foot massages because I have connective tissue issues with my feet. I CANT get turned on when I’m in massive pain, so he knows a 5 minute foot massage gets me ready. But a foot fetish? Weird.
Tessa says
For some reason my hubby is deathly scared of feet. I don’t get massages 🙁
Scheva says
Why in the world would a guy get horny over some toes? Kinda creepy
Ana's Attic says
And a guy that is into kissing a woman’s shoes? What?
Tessa says
I have no idea. I broke my toes when I was a junior in high school, so two of my toes on my left foot are perma-swollen, I’d gag if he went near them.